Hello you beautiful soul x
Welcome to my weekly Friday newsletter! My goal is to make this as inspiring, insightful, and useful for you as possible, so you can live your best life and take steps everyday to turn your dreams into your reality, just like I'm trying to do.
If you're new, thanks for joining us! This is my most tight knit crew that I share my best info and tips with, along with my most personal insights and life updates.
If you've been here a while, thank you for your time and love ― I hope you've enjoyed the rollercoaster so far :) It's about to get a lot more wild, because...
I quit my job!
My last day is Friday, March 29th, 2019...
Then I have 60 days to permanently leave the UK.
So now you see why I've been in a whirlwind of emotions? ;) It's been two months since I got back from Cuba, and everything has changed.
I'm leaping, with no safety net in sight.
I have to break my own heart, and leave London, to chase my dreams. I've been living here on a work visa that's tied specifically to my job, so I have to leave the UK ASAP once I'm done working. That means moving back to the USA, home with my parents for the time being. (Moving date is still TBD because I'm procrastinating on booking that flight because that makes it really really real.)
I have been writing throughout this whole process and will be sharing more as time goes on. My coming back from Cuba article explains a lot when you (re-)read it with the filter that in the end, I choose to end my career.
Not gonna lie, I've spent a lot of timing wishing that I was announcing a new business plan, a big trip, a book launch, a new foreign city to live in, etc... but that's just not my reality right now and I'm actually OK with it. The truth is, I'm burnt out and I need time to recover and reflect on what I truly want to do with my life, and I cannot do that while working the job that I have in London. I'm very lucky that my parents are supportive and welcoming me home while I sort through my next steps. I have a big family and am so grateful for all of their love and support ― and can't wait to be home this summer to spend time with them.
Since I've promised you transparency... of course these thoughts flash through my mind...
I just left a really well paying job that had me flying around the world on a regular basis. WTF have I done?
I just left an amazing, innovative company and a successful, goal crushing, diverse, global dream team that I truly adore and love working with. WTF was I thinking?
I just left my dream job that I worked really fucking hard for 11 years for. WTF am I doing?
It's really crazy! But as I have learned so many times before ― it's OK to change ― change your mind, change your life, change your dreams. That doesn't make it any easier though. Does anyone else find it SO WEIRD when your dreams and goals change? Like, deep down, I know my big city career dreams of growing into a VP role and beyond are over. I no longer want that ― but I'm still mourning the end of it somehow even though the decision has been made.
So, here I am, and there it is. 32 1/2 (yes half birthday celebrations are a thing in my world), divorced, single, unemployed, moving home with my parents, not a lot of money, and no solid plans.
Makes me laugh so hard reading that above. Honestly it sounds like my worst nightmare ― and I have been going through the emotional ringer with this ― but overall I really am HAPPY. Happier and freer then I have ever been. My ego does flare up about it, but overall I've released my expectations and projections and for the first time in making big life decisions, I don't give a fuck what anyone else thinks. Fuck those society labels and life timelines.
One of the biggest lessons I learned in my divorce a few years back is that you are the only one that has to walk in your shoes day in and day out, for your whole life. So while you can and should take advice and listen to other's opinions, you need to filter it all through your own happiness, and make your decisions based on how you feel, not on what you think everyone else wants you to do. We all have to take care of our own happiness first.
So here I sit, perched in my 3rd floor window in my cozy London flat, about to uproot my entire life, YET AGAIN. These past few months have been surreal being in the midst of such massive shifts and making life altering decisions, but I'm doing my best to stay true to myself and enjoy every phase of this journey. We are never too late, too young, too old, too broke, or too heartbroken to start over in our pursuit of happiness.
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As usual, below is the latest list of links that I'm referring to so I can build (or uproot!? lol) my best life one intriguing article, quote, and video at a time:
WHERE I'M TRAVELING
- Now you see why I haven't been doing my usual Tel Aviv - Bangkok - NYC - London work trips this quarter! I'm so grateful I got to travel for work ― but in the end it left me drained and permanently jet lagged. In November and December I ended up cancelling my own personal holiday trips so I could recover from work trips. It was a huge red flag that I was too burned out to travel.
- As for my future travel plans... I have two trips coming up, and then my entire travel future is completely TBD.
- I'm flying to Istanbul for four days next week, and then I have a bit of a whacky + magical day trip planned in two weeks! Follow my Insta story on Thursday 3/21 to find out ;)
WHAT I'M WRITING
WHAT OTHERS ARE WRITING
BOOKS I'M READING
- My 50 books challenge for this year is still technically on... but I've finished ZERO books. I'm not stressing though ― I've been busy living out my own adventures and drama this year so far, but will soon have plenty of time to indulge in reading!
YOUTUBE VIDEOS I'M WATCHING
- Marie Forleo is a new favorite of mine and this MarieTV episode featuring Steven Pressfield on Overcoming Resistance & Why Talent Doesn’t Matter was everything I needed to hear right now. It's 48 minutes, but worth the time, so set some aside this weekend to listen and learn.
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"Feel like it’s taking forever to get to where you want to be in your life and business? Worry that all your hard work is for nothing? Maybe you’re beginning to wonder if you really have what it takes. Steven describes resistance as a negative force in the world that keeps you from fulfilling your dreams. For example, maybe you want to write a book, start your own business, or completely change careers but… you’re worried you don’t have enough talent. Or enough time. Or people will think it’s stupid... We need to stop."
QUOTE I LOVE
Remember that you are good enough, you are smart enough, and you are talented enough.
You were born with exactly what you need to chase down your biggest dreams.
Now go forth, face your fears, and get shit done to make your dreams come true, one day at a time!
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